had every reason to turn their backs against the world at that time, but instead, they channeled their grief and their pain into an act of grace. Within a year of their son's death, they had made the founding grant for this great school, pledging to do for other people's children what they were not able to do for their own boy.
我知道你们已经很了解了,因为这个经验已经深深的融入了斯坦福。这个经验是Jane and Leland传承给你们的。因为你们所有的人都知道这座伟大的大学是如何建成的。斯坦福夫妇的独子在15岁时得了伤寒离开了他们。他们有权利和理由去恨这个世界,但是他们却用优雅的行动疏导了心中的悲伤。在他们儿子死后不到一年内,他们已经这所伟大的大学筹集了建设经费,并发誓要为别人的孩子做一些他们自己的孩子不能得到事。
The lesson here is clear, and that is, if you're hurting, you need to help somebody ease their hurt. If you're in pain, help somebody else's pain. And when you're in a mess, you get yourself out of the mess helping somebody out of theirs. And in the process, you get to become a member of what I call the greatest fellowship of all, the sorority of compassion and the fraternity of service.
这个经验非常明显,那就是,如果你受了伤,你需要帮助他人减轻伤痛。如果你感到痛苦,帮助他人减轻痛苦。如果你的生活一团糟,去帮助其他处在困难中的人摆脱困境。这样一来,你就变成了妇女联谊会或是互助会中最伟大的一个员。
The Stanfords had suffered the worst thing any mom and dad can ever endure, yet they understood that helping others is the way we help ourselves. And this wisdom is increasingly supported by scientific and sociological research. It's no longer just woo-woo soft-skills talk. There's actually a helper's high, a spiritual surge you gain from serving others. So, if you want to feel good, you have to go out and do some good.
斯坦福夫妇遭受了世上父母所能遭受的最大痛苦,然而他们懂得通过帮助他人来帮助自己。这种智慧渐渐的被科学和社会学研究所证实。这不仅仅是某种软技能的谈话。这事实上是在帮助者的高度,一种从帮助别人而获得的精神大爆发。所以如果你想快乐,去帮助别人吧。 But when you do good, I hope you strive for more than just the good feeling that service provides, because I know this for sure, that doing good actually makes you better. So, whatever field you choose, if you operate from the paradigm of service, I know your life will have more value and you will be happy.
但是当你做好事时,我希望你不仅仅是为了获得的快乐,因为我深知做好事可以让你变得更棒。所以无论你怎样选择,若你能以服务他人为榜样,我相信你的生活会更有价值,你也会更快乐。
I was always happy doing my talk show, but that happiness reached a depth of fulfillment, of joy, that I really can't describe to you or measure when I stopped just being on TV and looking at TV as a job and decided to use television, to use it and not have it use me, to use it as a platform to serve my viewers. That alone changed the trajectory of my success. 我也很高兴做我的脱口秀节目,那种快乐是一种更深层次的成就感,我很难去表达和衡量。我决定以电视作为我的职业,我要用电视这个平台来为我的观众服务,而不是让电视利用我。这改变了我成功的轨迹。
So, I know this—that whether you're an actor, you offer your talent in the way that most inspires art. If you're an anatomist, you look at your gift as knowledge and service to healing. Whether you've been called, as so many of you here today getting doctorates and other degrees, to the professions of business, law, engineering, humanities, science, medicine, if you choose to offer your skills and talent in service, when you choose the